New Ways To Create The Change You Want Most
Every year we go through the ritual of declaring New Years Resolutions. I was just reading on Statisticbrain.com the top New Years Resolutions are #1. Lose Weight/Get Healthier, #2 Life/Self-Improvement, #3 Better Financial, Decisions and coming in #4 quit smoking. In an article by Dan Diamond for Forbes, he notes that 40% of Americans make New Years Resolutions with only 8% following through with their resolutions.
I'm not surprised, we get bogged down in doing things the same way and expect different results. That friends is the definition of . . . INSANITY. What if you set your goals with an identity in mind? I was reading James Clear's blog Identity-Based Habits: How to Actually Stick to Your Goals This Year. In it he talks about starting off by setting your identity goal because our current behaviors are connected to the way we see ourselves. He suggests starting out with the following statement about yourself, I'm the type of person who . . . and finish with deciding the type of person you want to be.
People have the ability to think at different levels, each level organizes the level of thinking below it. Change is most likely to happen at a higher level of thinking, which is why you may want to give the identity method some consideration. If you were to remain on the same level of thinking where your problem exists it may seem unsolvable. Robert Dilts and Gregory Bateson developed the Logical levels of learning and change.
Our brain structure, language, and social systems form natural hierarchies or levels of processes. When you are thinking from the identity level you then have all the resources of the levels below to help you change (as seen in the graphic above). What do you value/admire most about who you want to be. You can then utilize your existing capabilities, habits and behaviors or develop new ones that supports the person you want to be. For example. I am a person who makes healthy choices, I have lots of information about the benefits of exercise and diet, what I need to build are the behaviors and habits that demonstrates outwardly that I make healthy choices. I would then choose to focus on building habits that support what I say that I am. I would perhaps get in the habit of never leaving the house without making a list of all the good foods I want to buy so that, when I go shopping I know exactly what I need. Give it a try and "act as if" you are that person you want to be.
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Hi I'm Karen, a certified life and ADHD coach. I partner with creative, energetic professionals to develop strategies for making life and work more manageable.